To the girl in question:

Face it. Everyone talks about someone else. Even your best friend talks about you. Talk does not equate to bitching or backstabbing. At least not, when the person only stated facts. Facts that you can’t deny. Whatever others infer from those facts, are not fault of the person stating them. You can’t blame the person for others imaginations and gossip tendencies.

So, point is, if you do not want people to talk about you, do not get involved in conspicuous acts. Eg; If you do not want others to say that you slept with someone else, do not stay in a hotel (or room) alone with that someone else. Eg; If you do not want others to say that you are a whore or a slut, don’t go around flirting with those who are already attached. Eg; If you do not want others to say that you are an annoying spoilt brat, stop acting like one.

Moral of the story, you can’t get people to stop talking about you. Even if you confront them about it or try so hard to prove your ‘innocence’ by appearing victimized or otherwise. Change yourself so others don’t have a chance or won’t even be interested to talk about you. Remember, talk does not mean backstabbing. Because the person talking stated facts but the people listening may infer.

Go think about it, young girl. Grow up while you can. But of course, you can ignore all these and remain in your attention seeking ways to cover up for your insecurity.

Best Wishes,
Clare Yau

P.S: I protect those I choose to, in MY way.